Sweet! A Super Sweet Blogger Award!

I was nominated by http://bythemightymumford.wordpress.com/  hosted by Jonathan Caswell.  Jonathan is a poet and a brilliant writer.  I hope you will check out his site.

So I guess I need to answer some questions:

*MY FAVORITE DESSERT:  I LOVE Crème brûlée!  I have had a lot of different variations of it and all of them are simply wonderful.

* CAKE OR ICE CREAM?:  I guess that would have to be cake.  I am not a big fan of ice cream.  Yeah.. I know, it’s weird.  I just don’t care too much for the super cold and the texture.

*WHEN ARE DESSERTS MOST ENJOYED?: I actually love it best in the morning.  Just a little something sweet to start the day off right.

*COOKIES OR CAKE?: Hmm… my husband is an incredible cookie master.  But, I kind of like cake better actually!

*Chocolate or Vanilla? Always chocolate!

For the Super Sweet Blogging Award, you have to:

1. Thank the Super Sweet Blogger who nominated you.

2. Answer 5 Super Sweet Questions.

3. Include the Super Sweet Blogging Award image in your blog post.

4. Nominate a baker’s dozen other bloggers.

5. Notify the nominees of their nomination on their blog.

So I had to actually figure out what exactly you are supposed to do with these Blogger awards, and unlike other awards that you can shove in a drawer and forget about, these you have to pass on to someone else.  This means I have to come up with a list of others who need to have their day cheered up by sweetness! Cool, here are my nominations

:)   SUPER-SWEET NOMINEES:

http://toemail.wordpress.com

http://megansbeadeddesigns.wordpress.com

http://bwread.com

http://thisisanothercastle.com/

http://thesirenstale.wordpress.com/

http://busymindthinking.com

http://life-with-the-topdown.com/

http://theyearofhalloween.com/

http://lesleycarter.wordpress.com/

http://davidanaturephotography.wordpress.com/

http://healthisfromheaven.wordpress.com/

http://www.theevolutionofeloquence.wordpress.com/

http://dearkitty1.wordpress.com/

http://writingsofamrs.wordpress.com/

http://sophiebowns.wordpress.com/

 

 

#FitchTheHomeless:Take a stand against Mike Jeffries!

Abercrombie & Fitch CEO Mike Jeffries is a douchebag. His declaration of not wanting “not so cool” kids or women who wear size large to wear his company’s clothes, has sparked outrage. This imaginative man, Greg Karber has come up with a great response. We are joining Greg and many other in our effort to readjust the Abercrombie & Fitch brand.

He’s giving their clothes to the homeless and we are going to help him! We would love it if you could watch the video and donate to the homeless as well. Then Facebook, Twitter, and blog about how you made an effort to protest hate by giving. Use hashtag #FitchTheHomeless in your responses.

Is this exploiting the homeless? No way, donations are down in this economy. The donations the homeless have relied on for years have been downsized, money is being used to provide medical care and food. Donations of clothing are always welcome. Feel like you want to explain why you are donating A & F’s clothing? Go ahead, I am sure they would be amused to give Mike Jeffires and his band of minions a precious finger in a photo for you to pass along as a stand against hate and intolerance.

Important information about Lyme disease

Lyme Disease has a lot of misunderstandings surrounding it.  In fact, there are a lot of people who have no idea at all what Lyme Disease is and how wide-spread this epidemic really is. Living with Chronic Lyme, I’ve read through the numbers, looked at the studies, done tons of research to try to find something that might make me feel a little better. But the most important thing I have learned about living with Lyme is that Lyme isn’t a death sentence.

This is what you should know about Lyme Disease:

Lyme disease is caused by bites from ticks AND  it  has been found in mosquitoes, mite’s fleas and biting flies around the world.  Lyme disease is an infectious disease caused by Borrelia burgdorferi, a bacterium classified as a spirochete.

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There are over 100 strains of Borrelia  burgdorferi in the United States, 300  strains worldwide and 5 subspecies of Borrelia burgdorferi. This diversity is thought to contribute to the antigenic variability of the spirochete and its ability to evade the immune system and antibiotic therapy, leading to chronic infection.

You can prevent infection by using tick-bite avoidance techniques. When visiting known tick-infested areas like the woods or tall grasses where ticks can crawl onto your body use some sort of insect repellant containing DEET onto exposed skin can help repel the ticks, but wearing long pants and long sleeves can keep them from getting to your skin as quickly. Everyone, including children, and pets should be examined for ticks when exposed to being outside. Ticks can be removed gently with tweezers and saved in a jar for later identification.

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The most common symptoms of Lyme disease include a red, circular “bulls-eye” rash often accompanied by muscle and joint aches. BUT less than 50% develop any rash at all.   I don’t actually remember getting the tell-tale rash.  But I didn’t k

now I had Lyme Disease until about 10 years ago after I had been diagnosed with a whole grocery list of other conditions. Chances are that I got sick as a kid. I might have gotten a welt looking bite, but then again I was always investigating the woods or outdoor areas and rarely gave it a second thought to have a gash, a nasty bug bite, or hives from something I rubbed against. And the early symptoms of Lyme are more like getting the Flu.  Lyme disease wasn’t often checked for when I was a kid and even now, my own children aren’t routinely checked for it, except my middle son who actually got Lyme disease when he was 10.

Researchers didn’t identify the cause of Lyme disease and connect it with ticks until 1981 and it wasn’t until recently that doctors even knew of the tests to run for Lyme disease.

Lyme Disease is an epidemic. It’s spreading rabidly.

Lyme disease is under-reported. Of the reported cases only approximately 23,000 per year meet the strict criteria. The CDC has gone on record saying that they estimate the official cases reported may be 10% of the total number of cases that would be accepted if all cases were reported, so 230,000 new cases per year is possible.

Lyme disease is medically described in three phases as: (1) early localized disease with skin inflammation; (2) early disseminated disease with heart and nervous system involvement, including palsies and meningitis;  and (3) late disease featuring motor and sensory nerve damage and brain  inflammation as well as arthritis.

I am somewhere in the stage 3. But I move in and out of flare ups thanks to my doctor and treatments of high doses of antibiotics, physical therapy, massage, heat therapy, and vitamins.

If you are treated within the first 30 days of infection, your chances of having serious complications are slim. Within that first 30 days doctors can control this disease, you can greatly reduce the bacteria in your body and allow your body to destroy the rest.

Early illness is usually treated with medicines taken by mouth, for example, doxycycline (Vibramycin), amoxicillin (Amoxil), or cefuroxime axetil (Ceftin).

Lab tests for Lyme disease are not reliable. A person may test negative for Lyme disease and still have the disease. In 1988 the NY Health Dept. warned physicians that the ‘two-tiered’ (ELISA/Western Blot) criterion was missing up to 45% of positive Lyme cases. In 2005, a study by John’s Hopkins University concluded that the IDSA-endorsed two-tier criteria was missing 75% of positive  Lyme cases.

When I took the test in 2003 I tested positive.  I’ve had the test a few times and each time I test positive.  This means the bacteria in my body is alive and thriving.

  • The following signs/symptoms may be present in those infected with Babesiosis:
  • fatigue
  •  drenching sweats
  • headaches
  • emotional
 liability
  • depression
  • dark urine
  • dizziness
  • nausea and
vomiting
  • cough
  • fever
  • chills
  • jaundice
  • shortness of breath
  • bleeding tendencies,
  • bruising
  • pulmonary edema
  • encephalopathy
  • low to
normal range leukocyte counts
  •  possible elevated levels of dehydrogenase,
bilirubin, transaminase
  • anorexia
  • T.M.J.
  • difficulty swallowing or
chewing,
  • tooth grinding,
  •  arthritis (in small joints of fingers and larger, weight
bearing joints),
  •  Osgood-Schlatter’s Syndrome (water on the knee)
  •  bone pain
  • 
gout-like pain in toe
  • muscle spasms to the point of dislocating joints and tearing
muscle tissue
  • leg and hip pain
  • “drawing up” of arms
  • “growing pains” in children
  • 
tendonitis
  • heel pain
  • carpal tunnel syndrome
  •  paravertebral lumbosacral
muscle strain/spasm.

Approximately 25%- 66% of Babesia patients are known to be co-infected with
Lyme disease. The symptoms may continue for long periods of time, subside,
then return.  A low Babesiosis titer (IgG) often indicates a chronic infection.  An
acute or current infection may show a higher reading on the IgM test initially.
There are over 100 species of Babesia in the United States but only ONE or TWO
species are currently detected by commercial labs.

 There are treatments, but they come with a kick. The Herxheimer ”herx” reaction will make you feel like you are dying.  A ‘herx’ occurs when the spirochetes die
off and produce toxins which can overwhelm a person’s body. We feel sick, some of us feel mentally unstable.  I have had moments when I could only describe how I was feeling as I was dying.

 Do not take steroids if Lyme disease is even suspected!!!  Steroids
 suppress the immune system and allow the bacteria a non-challenged environment in which to
multiply.  Many people who now suffer with chronic cases of Lyme disease were 
given steroids and are now chronically ill, disabled or have died.

If you suspect Lyme Disease, see your doctor immediately and demand that you be tested.  Do your research and be prepared.

 

http://www.lymehelp.org/lyme-disease-facts.htm

http://www.freewebs.com/teenswithlyme/

http://www.medicinenet.com/lyme_disease/article.htm

https://sites.google.com/site/marylandlyme/50-faq-answers

http://faerywings.wordpress.com/2013/05/10/international-lyme-disease-awareness-rally-may-10-2013/

Stop labeling your kids!

Prince or Princess.. who cares?

There is a trend right now to prove how much you support homosexuality.   I fully agree, there’s nothing wrong with being supportive, unless you are going so far out there that you are damaging your children.  Here’s where I am probably going to piss some people off…. but children do not need to choose which sexual preference they are in elementary school.  They should be allowed to come and go, explore ideas, move on naturally in any direction they please.  But when parents start labeling their children as gay, lesbian, pink boys, tomboy, ect.  they are damaging them and skewing their child’s view of the world. Don’t make your child feel as if they have to live up to your expectations in order to make you happy. Stop trying to win the parent of the year award by announcing how thrilled you are to have a “pink boy” or that your son has a crush on Blaine from Glee.. what the hell is your child doing watching Glee in the first place!  That show is terrible for kids who don’t understand the humor of making fun of stereotypes, for promoting sex and underage drinking, and worst of all life isn’t a damned musical where you can just belt out a song in the middle of your teenage crisis! I like the show, but I wouldn’t want my elementary school age kids watching it because some shows are not for little children!  Family Guy is NOT FOR CHILDREN! GLEE IS NOT FOR CHILDREN!  There’s nothing wrong with watching a show together as a family and talking to them about what they see.  But make it something age appropriate!  I know parent who won’t let their kids watch the nightly news because it’s too inappropriate, so they turn the channel to Family Guy or South Park because they are cartoons.  Really???

Almost daily I see on blogs and articles parents who are “standing up” for the rights of their children to be seen as gay.  Mothers are posting photos of their sons wearing dresses and tiaras and passing them around like trading cards.  Stop it!  For God’s sake!  What if your son gets to puberty and actually starts to have those “happy” feelings for a…. girl.  You are pretty much damaging any chance that kid is going to get for getting out of high school without some sort of break down. Does a child’s sexual preference need to define them?  Create a loving home and it won’t matter if your daughter discovers that she’d rather be in a relationship with a girl?  Let them live their lives without everyone else giving an opinion. Stop making your children into your “Lifetime Movie“.

Let kids be kids!

Here’s the thing.. I don’t have any issue with being gay, straight, curly, or bouncy. I don’t define people by their orentation. I love my children for them, not for their future sexual partners. I have friends of all standards in their sexuality, but the difference is that they are adults, and even then I don’t label them.  Adults have the right to figure out where their pointer is leading them and check it out.  But children are exploratory, that doesn’t mean that if your son put on his sister’s party dress that you need to rush out and buy him a full wardrobe of dresses and your vision of what gay men find attractive.  Just chill the heck out! And I am not the only one thinking this.  I was glad to see that there are other bloggers out there that are also seeing that posting every moment of your child’s life might not be the best thing.. not to mention the fact that most people don’t want to know every meal your child has ever eaten or how many times he had to poop.

I have kids.. a lot of them in fact have called our house home, some were born to us, some were given to us, and some just naturally were attracted to the constant noise of our lawn.  We were lucky to have lots of boys and  girls who taught US a lot about being parents.  Our boys have gone on to be men and have moved in and out of relationships, settled down, and figured out where their attractions lie. We had a house full of trucks and trains, legos and dolls, kitchen sets and nerf guns. There were moments when some of the boys were a bit curious about the free air supply under those dresses, tried them on, enjoyed the curiosity, and moved right back into their TMNT t-shirts and shorts. There was no fuss made, no demands that they be more manly, no rushing out to tell me friends that my son was gay.  You just gotta let it play out.  Sometimes we laugh about the dollhouse days because they not gay, but it wouldn’t matter if they were. As it turned out, two of the girls who spent a lot of time around here actually are gay and enjoying their adult lives with loving partners openly.

We don’t need to have children labeled. They don’t need to be told that they are gay, straight, ADHD,OCD, GT!   We just need to be open-minded and let them explore the world. You don’t need to hide them behind closed doors and whisper that they might have a problem, but you also don’t need to post on ever social media outlet in the world that your child is gay and you are going to make sure they stay that way.  Let them be children and don’t put their every moment on the internet.  It might not bother you.. because you have made your choice.  But it will bother them when this comes back up in their lives later, and don’t think it won’t.

I wonder, can we really go back to a world where families didn’t share the intimate details of their lives with strangers or is it too late?  What do you think?

Not so Wordless Wednesday – Lyme Sucks!

I am not sure if any of you know this. But I have Chronic Lyme disease. I probably got it when I was about 11, growing up in the trees and woods. I never thought about getting Lyme disease. My Gram would always tell me to watch out for ticks, but only because those lil “buggers” would latch on to your skin and suck out your blood. I didn’t know then that I could and would catch a life threatening disease that 30 years later would be one of the biggest fights of my whole life.

Lyme sucks. You never know what you are going to wake up with. You know that it’s going to get worse and you are just thankful that it’s only pain today and you can still walk. You hug your children tight, and pray that they don’t learn that this is passed down to our children. But every time they have an ache or pain, you silently fear that it is your fault.

There’s no cure. The treatments make you feel miserable, but they treat the symptoms and they will come back. The more that you think about your disease, the more it seems to rise up and slap you around.

I hear people all the time say..” Oh, I have a XXX with Lyme. ” or know someone with it. And yet even though Lyme is one of the most common diseases.. it’s one that few actually think about until they have it. Then we think about it all the time. We need to find a cure, a treatment, support, but until someone famous starts screaming for help… it won’t get as much attention.

Please, talk about Lyme. Ask your doctors about Lyme. Become more aware of Lyme!

Lyme? What Lyme?

I have Lyme disease. I am in control. Lyme does NOT have me. It’s not going away. I am not going to wake up one day and never experience one of the wacky issues that comes with having Chronic Lyme. I will move in and out of treatment. I will always be on the lookout for something new to help control it. I’ll look for a new rheumatologist soon. I have Lyme.

Every once in a while I am reminded about how I used to be. The person that Lyme controlled was sad, scared, and worst of all I felt so guilty about having Lyme and how it was going to be for my family. The issues with Lyme got really bad for a while. I was pretty scared that for the rest of my life I was going to be a victim of this invisible monster that had me in it’s grips. I wasn’t going to have any choice about the life I lived, I was just going to watch as my body started to fail and I was going to be bed bound as the rest of the world went on without me.

Admittedly, I was so afraid of the sick pathetic thing that I was going to become that I didn’t want to live that long to be a burden to my family.  I didn’t want to be that pathetic secret in the bedroom that my family wanted to forget. But I didn’t know how to stop it.

I am so glad that time is over.

I don’t post much about Lyme anymore.  Why?  Because I am never EVER going to give Lyme that much power over me again.  The more you focus on pain, the worse it feels.

I have Lyme disease. I am a great Mom.  I love my husband so much that sometimes it hurts. I love to travel and have been doing a lot of it lately.  I love sitting on the beach and letting the warm sunshine warm my muscles and skin.  I am so happy. I have a great house. I have a lot of really funny friends, who probably have forgotten I have Lyme. Sometimes I don’t feel like doing much more than reading a great book, but I don’t take much time for that because I have a great life that’s full of living instead of being sick.

Lyme isn’t my life.  My life is so much better than something so tiny. I might have Lyme disease, but I have it by the balls!

Live.. Live well.. Live free!

May is Lyme Disease Awareness Month.  Are you aware?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Not anymore

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When the attacks start you try to tell yourself lies, something to make it feel better. ” They are only words, I know it’s not true.” But you hate yourself for taking it, wish you could say something that would make the words stop.  There’s nothing you can say, everything you try just makes it worse. When you fight back, it just gets uglier. You can’t walk away, the words will follow you. You can’t scream back, things will escalate and it will get violent.

You should be used to it, right? I mean it’s always been like this. Tomorrow it will be totally different and everything can go back to nice if you can just behave now. She loves me and I am all she has.

” I hate the way I look.  I am such a fat ass. ” Now we start telling ourselves these lies, these stones of hate that were thrown at us by careless mouths. ” Nobody will ever want me, I am lazy and stupid.” That was the goal all along, and now we feed the hurt and pain by starting to agree with it.

Maybe I was an “ungrateful heartless bitch” but you know what? I am not EVER EVER going to be abused again.

Lie all you want and say it didn’t happen. It did.  And everyone knows.  Someone told me recently that I had a secret that everyone knew, and they were all here for me.

Sticks and Stones hurt my bones, but your evil cruel words won’t hurt me anymore. I am all grown up, I can stand on my own and never have to take your abuse again. This has been a long time coming. But I am not afraid of you anymore.

Abuse Facts:

  • Abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy. 5
  • Abused teens are less likely to practice safe sex, putting them at greater risk for STDs. 5
  • 14% of all men in prison in the USA were abused as children. 7
  • 36% of all women in prison were abused as children. 7
  • Children who experience child abuse & neglect are 59% more likely to be arrested as a juvenile, 28% more likely to be arrested as an adult, and 30% more likely to commit violent crime. 5
  • Child abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions and at all levels of education.
  • About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse. 5
  • About 80% of 21 year olds that were abused as children met criteria for at least one psychological disorder. 5
  • The estimated annual cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States for 2008 is $124 billion. 6

LINKS
Check out Verbal Abuse and the Courts for links to legal        resources and information.

http://www.giftfromwithin.org
This site is dedicated to helping people who have been        wounded by others and who are seeking recovery, especially        from post traumatic stress. At least 20,000,000 Americans have experienced some form of PTSD. Gift From Within was        founded to help provide this support

http://www.onlinehealthresources.com/Mental-Health/
To learn how you can stop family violence visit www.stopfamilyviolence.org

For victims assistance online visit http://www.vaonline.org

To learn about dealing with bullying go to  http://www.kathynoll.com    for book        and videos by this highly acclaimed author.

AARDVARC is An Abuse, Rape    & Domestic Violence Aid and Resource Collection. This site is for victims of violence, their families and  friends, and the agencies and programs which serve them, both public and private. Issues addressed here currently include: domestic violence, stalking, and sexual assault.

National Domestic Violence Hotline
http://www.ndvh.org/

The Family Violence Prevention Fund
http://www.fvpf.org/

W. V. Coalition Against Domestic Violence
http://www.wvcadv.org/

The National Resource Center on Domestic        Violence
http://www.ncadv.org/

Safe Mail – No Public Record – In California
http://www.ss.ca.gov/safeathome/
To find out about this program for victims of domestic        violence — it’s Safe At Home. This unique mail forwarding        service will help relocating abuse victims keep their home,        work, or school location secret — free from public records        access and threatening abusers.