Dancing with Fireflies

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Just plain angry.

Have you ever been so angry that you really just couldn’t even think in clear thoughts. All you know is that you want to scream and you want to throw a terrible tantrum, but damned it you are over 3 and you can’t do it anymore. And it isn’t just one thing, its a whole bunch of things that have been waiting for the dam to burst.  Walking away doesn’t help because you really want to go let some people have it and when you walk away you just get to play out in your head all of the things you wished you had said and didn’t.

I am just plain angry.  I don’t have any other word for it, but I am freaking done. There’s no getting around the fact that I have lost my temper, lost control, and I am really ready to tell some people off.  This last week has sucked!

I am furious with my 11-year-old daughter for not putting any effort into doing well in school and as a result her grades are slipping.  How difficult it is to ask the teacher if you don’t know what to do? Raise your hand, ask the question, do your homework.  Yes, I know she was sick for a few days and missed school due to an upper respiratory infection.  It happens, she was sick and I could only afford to let her stay home from school 2 days because she missed other days getting her braces on. But give her a couple of days to make the work up, give her a bit of a break, and show her what needs to be done! She’s a smart kid going work 2 grades above her age.  Give them a damned break when they act like children and need some adult supervision.  And why is it that my daughter can be so sweet when she’s in trouble? I knew something was up when she came in the door quiet and wanted a hug.  She had a bad day and knew it was about to get worse…it did, a lot.

I know I am an angry mom, I didn’t go over any lines.  I didn’t touch her, I didn’t threaten her.  But I am angry… very very angry.

And off the topic of my daughter.. 2 people who I thought were good friends of mine from high school and we reconnected with after all these years over Facebook felt the need to unfriend me over what I really feel is ridiculous reasons and at this point I am so angry I am glad to be rid of more links to my frustrating high school life anyways!

My first unfriending came with no warning, no hints at all.  I just noticed that the regular ranting and raving coming from my Facebook was missing.  It was like when the loud music at a bar suddenly cuts off and everyone looks around. Yeah, I looked around Facebook to see what was missing and realized pretty fast that I had been unfriended by someone I actually liked a lot and talked to almost every day. I had planned to fly 2,000 miles to her wedding to show her how much I cared about our friendship and I get unfriended, why?  Hmm.. I wonder if it could have been my last post on Facebook asking my friends if they could PLEASE chill on the cussing.  I know it’s hard, I know cussing is how you express yourself.  But it’s really stupid and makes you look like you have no class.  I know this because I am a chronic cusser and I have heard the nonsense that comes out of my gutter mouth, it’s gross.  But does my friend explain to me that she’s upset with something I said? No.. I am unfriended by not only her but her boyfriend as well.  Nice..  I love it.

THEN a few days later I get an email telling me that I am being unfriended for a month or two because apparently I have been religion bashing and he’s sick of the hatred from the world about him being Mormon.  Excuse me???  Really??  I don’t do that!  In fact I have no problem with anyone’s faith unless they try to shove it down my throat and choke me with it.  And that wasn’t the case.  Want to know what it was???    It was this damned CAT.  Apparently the cat is a hate cat and I am guilty of spreading hate with a CAT!  And no amount of trying to explain to my friend that I didn’t set out to offend anyone with the CAT helped.  I was unclicked and checked off the planet into oblivion over a CAT.  Why the hate for the CAT?  Hmm.. because another person sent me the photo of the cat to cheer me up over being unfriended and I shared it with my Facebook friends because it was funny and did help.  Did I care that the original poster of the CAT was someone who is atheist?  No.. I don’t judge and didn’t care.. it was a CAT.

And there are a few other reasons I am angry that I am choosing not to post.  But they are frustrating and upsetting, I don’t have any control over it and all I can do is sit there and try to be friendly and let it all just happen. The news is full of lovely stories of people killing their babies, politics that just stink, and it’s depressing.  I’m done.. I am so angry.

 

Where the days go

So people who follow me online know that I have a small webshop on Etsy.com.. Morning Tempest Studios. But it isn’t as well-known amongst people I know around my town that I do this. I guess I am not as much of a self-promoter as others.   One of the things I love about working online is the fact that almost all of my work is done through email and the postal system.  I almost never have to actually talk to anyone and I can be free to be crazy and fun online, where as out and about I have a little harder time expressing myself.

One of the hardest parts about working from home for yourself is the fact that the days do actually go by really fast and most of the time I am actually not getting paid for that.  I read the blogs, go through message boards to constantly keep learning more about my trade, and I spend a great deal of time promoting my shop on Etsy, Facebook, Twitter, and my other Blog. There are days like today that I look at the clock and groan that it’s after 4 and I have more to do.

Part of what I do each day is to review my shop. Trying to keep on top of trends and keeping my shop fresh is a big deal.  Knowing what is popular, what might become popular, what people are searching for, and how you can offer what everyone wants is a large part of my day. I get around 100-120 people a day looking through my shop for the perfect gift.  But there is always a push to grab the attention of even more people.  More people will result in more sales.

I am also teaching myself about my new digitizer software which is not super difficult, but it has a lot to learn. Whenever you have to self teach yourself anything, there is a lot of trial and error. And I have made a lot of errors in learning how to do this. I love it, but goodness.. it’s not easy.  I know however that I need to keep learning and make this work so that it can be a part of my shop and actually pay for itself one day.  These things are crazy expensive and honestly it scares me that I just won’t be able to master it.

I’m thankful for the chance to work hard to make this work. I love what I do and I love the people I get to meet along the way. But it’s always kind of odd to me when I am put in the spotlight when people I have known for a while realize that I have the shop and want to know more about it.  I feel this shy buzz come over me and wish that I could just give them the website and hope they like it. Though Morning Tempest is mine and I am so proud of it, I haven’t learned how to show that offline just yet.

Maybe I will research that tomorrow..

Lemons!

“All right, I’ve been thinking. When life gives you lemons, don’t make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don’t want your damn lemons! What am I supposed to do with these?! Demand to see life’s manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I’m the man who’s gonna burn your house down! With the lemons! I’m gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible lemon that burns your house down!” – Cave Johnson

OK, so yesterday was a bit much on the drama.  However it was a bit amusing I have to admit.  I mean really, how many times in your life can you say that you got someone so totally riled up that use the word Goody Good and Gangster in the same sentence!  Priceless.. really.

I thought about how things transpired, what caused such a violent reaction to a simple  conversation between old classmates?  The truth is, the world is full of people who don’t make sense. There are enough ridiculous, drama loving, hair pulling, low lifes to keep Jerry Springer and Maury on the air for years.  We have thousands of jail cells packed full of people who have no self-respect and social skills and those people have wives, Baby Mommas, ect.

But what strikes me the most is how good people get lured into combative situations without meaning to.  How many times have you been shopping only to find rude shoppers making comments?  Do you address them?  Or do you ignore them and let the behavior go unchecked?   What about when out and about and you see babies left alone in cars?  Do you stand there guarding the child until the parent comes out and then take the chance on informing them on the dangers of leaving children alone?  Or do you walk away, shake your head, and talk about it later and wish you had done something?  Either way, these situations lure you into a situation with a person who WILL not only tear you apart verbally, but there are situations where it has gone to violence.

That woman from yesterday, she thought she was top dog by standing up and barking rude things at me. However that’s not the example of top dog, just a bitch with a problem.  She lowered herself to Middle school insults and shamed herself with bad behavior that likely she’ll never accept as wrong.  However, the sad part is that this is a person who claims to be a mother.. someone in charge of setting the moral code down for her children.  With such low standards for herself, I can only imagine how long it will before her offspring follow in her path and end up lemons themselves.

When Crazy People Attack

Wow, so just when you thought it was safe to Facebook, crazy wives of old friends go chimp-crazy and try to attack  you with words, sadly only to make you understand even further how badly people can behave. It almost makes me want to vote for giving free education to all, so that the learning curve of America isn’t fully dragged into the toilet by illiterate mongrels like this one.

So as told earlier in the day, my old friend turned out to be an old mistake when he allowed his probably intoxicated wife to molest his Facebook and try to have a battle of insults with me.  At first I was a little taken back by the oh so witty commentary.

you r the problem. you are condasending and need to realize that the only thing i have ever heard about you from XXXX is that you were some chick that heused to hitch hike for miles to go and ****. tand that you werent good in bed so he cheated thats all i heard about you.

Well that was amusing.. and really it was enough to make me realize that I wasn’t going to go any further with this mental case.  It also made me question if she knew what ”condasending” means. So I calmly unfriended her and went back to work only to find a few minutes later she hadn’t finished her uneducated rants.  Several more followed this one..each one went un-responded. Soon she was having conversations with herself.  And when I responded that I no longer wanted to have anything to do with her or her husband, that I would prefer that she stopped contacting me and blocked me if she felt better, I was not really surprised with this highly intelligent response.

YOUR HELLA FAT AND UGLY TO BY THE WAY . IM NOT MEAN SPIRITED IM REAL. YOU WENT TO FAR. IM NOT WRITING TO ALL MY OLD GUY FRIENDS BECAUSE THEY ARE ALL MARRIED. HELLO IDIOT! HE DIDNT EVEN REMEMBER YOU. WE DONT CARE. ITS JUST SILLY. WE ARE all completly differnt people your a goody good and were gangster it just doesnt work.

If by ”goody good” she means without a felony record, no history of drug or alcohol abuse and I don’t make a living on a pole.. she’s correct. And yes.. I do understand that this little white girl is “gangster” because if by that she means poor, uneducated, white trash without any hope of ever digging out of poverty and hopes that as her husband stated on MY Facebook wall that a ” TOAD ” will bail them out with handouts and government aid.. yes, in her world she must be ”gangster” all the way home-girl.

Well, thankfully I am sure Little Miss Gangster Sunshine can’t actually navigate her way out of the Men’s room and all will resolve itself soon enough as I have blocked her and him as well.  But it has taught me a valuable lesson.  Just because an old friend seems friendly on Facebook.. doesn’t mean they don’t have crazy wives that will try very hard to act like a grown up but fail miserably.

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